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Arrgh! Sexuality issues!!!!


A friend of mine has recently pronounced himself bisexual. This, on it's own is unusual. The real problem is that he is "attracted" to me. This is not good. Any suggestions on what to do?

Edit:"worrying" is wrong.

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Re: Arrgh! Sexuality issues!!!!


You find it "worrying" that a friend of yours is bisexual? It's not like his personality has changed just because he's bi...
I've had several friends who were bi, or homosexual, they're just like everyone else but with different "interests".
As with that he is attracted with you. Just handle it like it's a girl thats attracted to you but who you don't have any interest in.

Just to clear thing up: I myself is not bi or homosexual but there is nothing wrong with those who are.

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Yeah. I just don't really want to upset him. He's a pretty cool guy, although he would probably give brandon and co a heart attack =)

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You have to let him know how you feel with doing as little damage as possible.

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Yeah. What they've been saying. Just tell him you're not really having a mutual feeling and that he should stop chasing you.
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Re: Arrgh! Sexuality issues!!!!


Weirdswedishdude has a point - who you are is not solely defined by who you are attracted to. If it is, then you're a pretty narrow person.

For you, though - what, exactly, are you afraid of? What scenarios pop into your head that make you feel anxious? Is it just that you don't want to upset him? Are you worried he might become aggressive one day in pursuing you (kinda like guys do to girls sometimes)?

Just trying to help you focus your thoughts ...
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To me this could have just as well been: "my tomboyish girl chum says she wants to lose her virginity to me but I think of her like a sister."

What exactly is your fear?

letting him down gently so you don't lose him as a friend? (treat him as if he was a girl with a crush on you. Don't count on the friendship remaining intact.)

The awkwardness of everything you've done in a friendly heterosexual way fueling a misguided attraction?

How you should make yourself as undesirable as possible?

Do you take moral issue against same sex attraction and it's damaging and awkward between you and your friend that he have what you deem to be innapropriate feelings?


Specify your main concerns you are more likely to get specific advice.

My morals and beliefs may not encourage my approval of same sex attraction but I don't really see it differently than I would opposite sex immorality.
Edit: If anyone does want to get into morality/immorality opinioning we should take it to a new thread in opinions forum. Could be interesting.

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I'd just say I'm not that way, and just hope for the best.

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He's really, really insecure. He has only just stopped self-harming. I don't want to push him over the edge again. Really, a very very bad idea. I also don't want him to feel that there's something wrong with him.

What now?

(By the way he's really into it now. I'm the "only one he can relate to", suppposedly)

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convince him he's not a bi, if he doesn't like having something shoved up his rear, he's not Bi, or homo sexual. Then convince him to try to make friends with a girl, having friends on both sexes, can help out someone.

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